Showing Up Solution Focused: 3 Tips To Help You Thrive In Each Moment
You may have heard the saying, “You got to show up if you want to get it done.” When a Tik Tok went viral featuring with a man in a robe chanting this phrase and dancing like a DJ, this saying was saved and shared all over social media. I admit I got my family together and used the sound to make a Tik Tok of my own. Why does this phrase hit home for so many people? Is it because we must show up in person now that we are moving further from the crisis of the pandemic? I think it is deeper than that. It matters because, from time to time, you and I are tempted to play it safe and stay in the comfort zone of life. Showing up means we choose action because we care about the result. When it comes to family life, showing up both physically and mentally is a must! Over the years, I have discovered how to use solution-focused principles to help you show up every day. Let's take a close look at my top three strategies.
Strategy #1 Obey Your Call To Action
Taking action on what you have chosen to do is the first way you can show up. The book Seven Habits of Highly Effective People calls this : “Being true to your moment of choice.” When you decide to do something, be all in. Make a plan and actually do it. Too many times, you have an amazing idea and then let it slip out of your mind, and it's gone forever. When you have an amazing idea, stop and document your thoughts. You can use the notes in your phone, a voice note, or pen and paper. Just don’t let the moment pass by without shining a light on that thought because it may be your call to action. Later, you can revisit that idea and plan out the steps to get it done. There is no better way to show up than to feel confidence as you crystalize your good ideas you and take action to make it happen.
Simply put, do what you say you will do when you say you will do it. Dana Potter, the owner of Pinnacle Estate Properties Inc., said In a recent Instagram post, “The most successful agents do what they’re supposed to do when they are supposed to do it, even when they don't feel like it.” This may seem like common sense, but it is so important! When we make a commitment to ourselves or others, we need to follow through. Doing what is right is not always what is easy. But it is worth it! Not only will this help build trust within your relationships, but it will also give you a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment.
If you find yourself struggling to stick to your commitments, try breaking them down into smaller steps. For example, if you tell yourself you are going to work out for 30 minutes every day, start by committing to just 5 minutes a day. Then gradually increase the time until you reach your goal. Small steps lead to big changes!
Stratagy #2 Make Each Moment The BEST Moment
It has been said when we move fast, we watch life, but when we slow down, we see life. Mindfulness happens when we slow down enough to notice what is around us. Be willing to slow down so you can fully experience life and relationships. Then, you make each moment the BEST moment of your life. Hal Elrod discusses this on the Achieve Your Goals Podcast (episode 383). He talks about how the best way to show up for your family is to be present with them.
Stop, look around, and take in each moment. Living in the moment helps you appreciate all that is happening around you. This doesn’t mean that you have to be happy all the time or that you should ignore your problems. Instead, mindfulness allows you to appreciate the good moments and find joy in everyday moments that you may otherwise take for granted.
Consider, for instance, the time you spend with your children. The next time your child talks to you about something they are passionate about, listen to them with your entire heart and mind. Look at how their hair falls when they speak and how their eyes move from left to right. Notice what makes them laugh and laugh with them. Enjoy every moment that they're speaking to you. As you do, you're making that moment the best moment of your life. You're not rushing it by half listening or thinking about what you need to do later. No! You are present in that precious moment. Each moment that you have with your loved one is a gift. The only moment we know for sure that we have is the moment we're living in. So to show up, we must live in the moment.
Strategy #3 Give Time To Yourself for Personal Growth
When was the last time you showed up for yourself? Taking care of yourself is essential! You cannot pour from an empty cup. To be available for others, you must ensure that you take care of yourself first. Listen to the voice within that is telling you what you need for your peace of mind. Whether it’s a mental health break, some time outdoors, or just 10 minutes of peace and quiet, make sure that you give yourself what YOU need to show up as your best self for your loved ones.
Show up for yourself through journaling
Journaling is one of the most effective ways to show up for yourself. There isn't one perfect way to journal, so find the way that feels right to you. You may enjoy writing on an empty page, whatever comes to mind, or you may want prompts and topics to help you on your way. Either way, journaling will help you take your thoughts out of your mind and put them on paper. When you do, you will feel more clarity and inner peace.
Have you noticed that you have moments of clarity when you write?
That’s because journaling provides a space for growth like none other. As you write, you may feel you are giving yourself advice on the things that have been bothering you for weeks. That's because tucked in your mind is wisdom that is waiting to be unleashed. Journaling is a beautiful way to unlock your internal wisdom. Solution-focused journaling is powerful. You can start a journaling habit by picking up the solution-focused writing book: 30 Days To Higher Hopes on Amazon today. This is a one-of-a-kind solution-focused journal for you to be able to show up for yourself each day.
As a solution-focused life coach, I encourage people to journal with a solution-focused mindset. That is why I have written journals to help you begin or continue your journaling practice. Be Inspired is a journal for those who love lots of open pages for free writing. 30 Days to Higher Hopes is intended to help you be more hopeful through guided journaling and writing prompts.
Listen To Your Inner Wisdom
There is a voice of reason inside of you that you can listen to or ignore. When you decide to show up for yourself, you must choose to listen to that wisdom. It may come when you are in prayer or in a time of stillness. Learn to listen to yourself.
Sometimes there's a voice that has been nagging you about something that you need to do, something you need to follow through with. You might need to make a move that you've been avoiding. You may need to walk away from a relationship that is harming you. If this is you, I bet you've heard your inner voice say, “Move on, move forward, move to your next destination. There's a blessing waiting for you.” And due to fear of the unknown, you've held back. It's time to be honest with yourself. Take the steps forward that you have been called to do.
Other times, you ignore a calling on your life because it seems hard or scary. Now is the time to listen to yourself and level up. You have everything you need to take steps forward toward your best life. If you are paralyzed by doubt, it's time to show up for you. There might not be anyone else in your life standing by your side the way you'd like to, but you can't sit around and wait for someone to understand or validate what you do! You are called to step out in faith. That is the only way you will reap the beautiful results that come from doing what you are meant to do in life. So listen to the inner wisdom and show up for yourself!
Showing up solution-focused takes practice, but it is so worth it!
You can to be there for your family, even when life gets in the way. Remember these tips on how to show up for your family with a solution-focused mindset, no matter what!
Obey Your Call To Action
Make Each Moment The BEST Moment
Give Time To YOURSELF for Personal Growth
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